The Oh-No's

I'd seen this on a blog:

I"M THE ONE TO BLAME!!!!
There's this guy i have been seeing for almost 3 years. its llike he loves me he loves me not!! We've been throw a great deal. This nigga took in and loves my daughter as his own. I RESPECT A PERSON THAT WILL STEP IN A BABIES LIFE EVEN IF THAT CHILD ISN'T THERE OWN. It shows alot as a person and as a man or woman. Well to me I know I LOVE THIS MAN. To him he really doesnt realize how much i do love him. But in all reality I"M THE ONE TO BLAME. I'm THE CUNT! BITCH! WHORE! SLUT! Yeah all of they above i'm the DEVIL! This MothaF&^%ER done so much to me i get BLAMED!!! He toke something so beautiful and made it a nightmare. BUT I"M TO BLAME!!! He took something personal that was not his to take BUT YET I'M TO BLAME!!! BUT THROW ALL THE HURT I STILL LOVE THIS MAN!!! BUT TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS I DID WRONG. But only if they knew everything the whole story. YEAH!! the WHOLE STORY. They dont know what he has done to me MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMONTIONALLY. They only know what I've done. It's really crazy. I KNOW I"M NOT PERFECT BUT WHO IS ANYBODY TO JUDGE. Especially someone who has been locked up most of his life. DOESNT KNOW HOW TO SHOW THE PEOPLE THAT LOVE HIM RESPECT. BUT NO I"M THE ONE TO BLAME!!! I'M THE ONE TO BLAME!!! When he feels things dont go right in his life. YEAH I"M A DUMB BITCH!!!! I still LOVE this MAN. BUT I'M THE ONE TO BLAME!!!

Can you guess what my response was???? Ok, Ok, here it is:

Ok, this response won't be as long as the last, I promise! (hee, hee, hee) Does it really matter that anyone else knows the whole story? If they blame you for things going wrong, or how he's showing them that you are the one to blame, FUCK THAT! To me hun, that's demeaning as woman! One thing that you need to look at is what it is that your daughter is witnessing. If she see's the arguements, the fights, and him lashing out at you. If you've said yeah to more that 2, then no it's not healthy. But then again, I can only respond to what you have written. It seems to me that he can disrespect you to make him feel good. (I guess!) If after 3 years, through all the DUMB BITCHES, WHORES, SLUTS and you still love this man, who do you love more???? Your daughter, yourself, or him????? Sorry sweetheart, you shouldn't have let yourself go through all that for this long. Love your daughter more and love yourself much!


Can anyone tell me why this woman, would submit herself to such a state of confusion? At first I thought, it wouldn't be me! But then rethinking things over and over again, it could've been me. I thank GOD every chance I get for the things he has blessed me with. Thinking... (again), If after 3 years, why hasn't this so-called man committed himself to her and her daughter? If after this long a person isn't sure whether or not you love them, them obviously "THEY DON'T! Oh, no... here I go...

This man doesn't love her, if he does why doesn't she know it? Why can't she feel it? She doesn't see it... and I don't hear it from her words.. Can't see it in her words. Lord help this girl... why has she let him over take her life??? Abusive mentally, physically, emotionally? I don't understand this, can't conprehend. Does she want to Love some boy? Or a real man? By all means, I know people make mistakes. I've made them, you've made, everyone has. But how can you stay with a mistake? From what she wrote, it seems like she is crying out for help! Ahhh!
But no one can hear her! Poor baby. I guess this is pretty much irritating me. I know that this type of relationship isn't right for her or her daughter, but who am I? Hope she can find it in herself to love herself more than just being THAT BITCH!