BLISS

I haven't been able to sit at peace in a very long time. I have had enough bs men in my life and now I realize that they were supposed to be that way with me so I can appreciate the relationship that I'm in now. I feel like our closeness has another meaning than what I've experienced. From experience, I now notice the difference. There is something about him that keeps me interested. There has only been one other person whom kept my attention the way he does. I never thought that someone else would do more for me emotionally, mentally, and physically.
He reminded me that it's almost been a year since we've started dating. Yes, he reminded me. My heart and mind tells me he's a keeper. He's more of what I expect in a man, despite the minor issues I have. He's goal driven, has NO problem being a family man (which I love).
I thought since the transition, we wouldn't last. I figured I would've given up by now, with no hesitation. Let it have been the old me, long distant what?!? Yeah, right.

Bliss? Smitten? Adore? Care? Love?

I feel all of the above. The more time spent, the closer we get. How close do you get before you become one????

And No, I won't except a proposal on a holiday!!!!! I love him, but we need our own day!

I'm starting to remember the feelings I used to have when I was in love, years ago. Wow, how those feelings fade, and so easily they come back. I don't want to feel any different from the excitement I'm feeling now.

Can you say, "Ohhh Weeee!"

Anxious

Finally, I get to spend some time with him! Yah, me! And this time there shouldn't be anything to stop it, at least not now. So anxious right now, it's crazy. To be able to have the intimacy I've been wanting, ooohhh. Finally. I haven't seen him since the beginning of June. Let alone spent time with him, that probably was in April/May sometime. It's hard to keep a long distance relationship, it really is. Sometimes I think about us just going our own separate ways, but that would be too easy to do. I hadn't been in a real relationship since my daughters father. That was years ago. But to be able to begin to understand, being more mature to even handle a real relationship, has it hardship at times. Here's to the Butterflies, again!!!


If it's meant to be, it will be. Missing him like crazy!

To Respond or not to Respond???

I need to breathe a little with this short topic. About a year and some months ago my grand mother passed. I never really got a long with my cousins nor aunts and those people. So the day of my grandmothers burial, these people where all acting like we have been close for years on in, which we weren't. I think that my experiences in life have grown into a positive transition, it showed me the different choices that I was given. I made the choice to better myself and take care of mine. Now back to why I need an appropriate response. See this people waited until we buried my grandmother to act like chickens with their heads cut off. Acting like they have no sense whatsoever! So the whole thing was over a signature book. One that everyone signs to show that they came to support. I knew it was trouble when I over heard them talking about just taking it and not letting my mother have it. My mother is the baby out of her brothers and sisters. Ignorance rumbles loudly inside them, and my mother and I just hear the thunder coming. I had to embrace myself for what was lying ahead.
when I put the book in our car, my mothers sister started talking out of the side of her neck, saying I don't know who my childs' father is, I'm nothing but a whore and all this other stuff. So, I lashed out on her. She just continued on talking shit while sitting the parking lot. And yeah, I called her out, ready to beat the living shit out of her. And to no avail she only talked shit. I gave up and went inside of the funeral home.
I began to hear the others' start there shit with my mother. I became defensive. In my head all I can hear was, "stay calm, they aren't worth it." They kept on arguing with my mother, I just stood next to her, letting her know I'm here. If they feel froggy enough, I'm going to let the beast out. My mom just looked at me and asked me to give them the book. I said FUCK THAT! She said, just give it to them. This will be the last time that you will ever see them, if it takes them having it to stay out of our lives then so be it.
Now, everyone has one dumb ass cousin, who thinks that when she has a crowd of people to back her up she can whoop ass! I think not! So she thought it was ok to get in my face and threaten me with her words. I laughed and my mother, in between us, kept insisting she go to her mother before I whoop her ass. Calmly I kept telling her, go by your mother before you piss me off.
Again, now back to why I need an appropriate response; THis dumb bitch sends me a message letting me know she's not trying to cause any trouble. She wanted to know how we are doing?

Ha!

Karma

I never experienced how Karma worked. But wow, it is a something that is crazy. My father who's been in my whole life and not in my brothers' or sisters' lives. He finally got caught, in the child support system, was served a letter this past week indicating he indeed is the father of a 17 1/2 year old. I knew about her since she was born. I always wanted to be around her and my other siblings, but was never allowed to do so.
See, I know her family and so does my fathers' brothers, which would be her uncles. I have came to the conclusion that he is retarded. He is pretty upset at the whole issue and he's looking for someone to blame. Blame? He's grown. I don't understand how people can blame someone else for their mishaps. But I'm to blame. Isn't that some shit???

LonesomeNess.

Is that even a word? After 9 months of being together (in a relationship), that leaves 4 months of semi-loneliness... I've made about 3 trips down to him, he's made one. Can you even consider the last trip a real trip? I know it wasn't, I'd made a visit to the clinic while I was down there this last time, so that doesn't count at all. That would make it 2 trips down to see him. The last time I spent any type of closeness with him, was maybe April. And yes, I'm losing interest. I feel like I'm just here and we are holding on to a title, that really doesn't belong to us.
LonesomesNess...
It's overwhelming at times, but trying to keep my mind off of it is even harder. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to get myself involved as much as I can, it isn't working. Just to go right back to thinking of only him and what's he doing. Our conversation is, just that, is.
LonesomeNess....
I'm tired of telling him, I miss you. And get nothing in return but I know. He's not expressive enough for me, and I try to except it. I need it. I need for him to tell me these things. He's tried, but then goes back to being inexpressive, yet again.

STUPIDITY

People talk about how it is so easy to get back in to school. Right now my nerves are on pins and needles with ignorant ass people. You would figure in order for these Dumb ass colleges to get paid they would hurry up and turn in paperwork to get paid, BUT NO! I am so irritated at this point. Now even if they turn in the paperwork, I will only get half of the fucking money that I needed to be paid. And where is the rest of the money going to come from??? All I can say is I'm getting ready to say FUCK THIS SHIT!!!!!

It didn't happen

So, he cancelled on me for the holiday weekend. Boy was I heated, I didn't bother talking to him until Sunday. He told me that something happened, but he didn't feel like talking about it. In my mind the first thing that came to mind was "BULLSHIT". My holiday weekend was alright, I spent it with my daughter and traveling to families homes. It was basically a weekend that I didn't want to be bothered. I felt like he wasted my time, killed it. I have been very stressed lately and all I wanted to do was get out. Chicago, a place I didn't want to see for a few days and I was there.
When I finally spoke with him, I was still upset and fury was in my voice, I let him here every part of the fury. Holding nothing back, I asked him if he was going to tell me the real reason why he cancelled. He not only cancelled on me but on a few other people as well. Then he laid it on me, a close friend of his was murdered. Murdered?? Ain't that some shit. He said that was his last straw and he couldn't take it anymore. And all I heard was the pain in his voice.
Then I thought, all this time of being selfish and wanting to be with him, I should've went. Alone. I didn't know that it was that bad for him. I told him that I did think it was bullshit, how he said put things to me. That he didn't want me to be down there with him. I really thought it was something else, maybe another woman. You know what can go through a persons' mind, especially mine. I feel bad now, but only for a little while. :)
Why would I think bad about this relationship, another woman? Wow... Has it really been that bad for me? When I say, "I trust him," do I really? Can I trust? That's the real question.